Time Within Time

ozu-teapot:

Old Joy - Kelly Reichardt - 2006

Will Oldham, Daniel London

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unrecognizedpotential:

forgottenawesome:

Do You Love Someone With Depression?
If you have a partner or are close to someone who struggles with depression, you may not always know how to show them you love them. One day they may seem fine, and the next they are sad, distant and may push you away. It is important that you know that as a person who is close to them and trusted by them, you can help your friend or partner have shorter, less severe bouts of depression. Mental illness is as real as physical illness (it is physical actually, read more about that here) and your partner needs you as much as they would need to be cared for if they had the flu.
Your relationship may seem one-sided during these times, but by helping your partner through a very difficult and painful affliction, you are strengthening your relationship and their mental health in the long term.
1. Help them keep clutter at bay.
When a person begins spiraling into depression, they may feel like they are slowing down while the world around them speeds up. The mail may end up in stacks, dishes can pile up in the sink, laundry may go undone as the depressed person begins to feel more and more overwhelmed by their daily routine and unable to keep up. By giving your partner some extra help sorting mail, washing dishes or using paper plates and keeping chaos in check in general, you’ll be giving them (and yourself) the gift of a calm  environment. (I’m a fan of the minimalist movement because of this, you can read more about that here.)
2. Fix them a healthy meal.
Your partner may do one of two things when they are in a depressed state. They may eat very little, or they may overeat. In either case, they may find that driving through a fast food restaurant or ordering a pizza online is just easier than fixing a meal. Eating like this, or neglecting to eat will only degrade your partner’s health, causing them to go deeper into their depression. Help your loved one keep their body healthy, and their mind will follow. This is a great article that talks about the “Brain Diet” which can help the symptoms of depression, and this article talks about how our modern diet could contribute to the recent rise in depression. Here is a recipe for a trail mix that is quick to make and has mood-boosting properties.
3.Get them outside.
 The benefits of getting outside for a depressed person are huge. And it is possibly the last thing on earth your partner will want to do. Take them to be somewhere in nature. Pack a picnic and lie in the sun, take a leisurely hike or plant a garden. Being barefoot in the dirt, or “earthing” helps ground the body and reverse the effects of living in a world of emf’s, and digging in soil can actually act as an antidepressant, as a strain of bacterium in soil, Mycobacterium vaccae, triggers the release of seratonin, which in turn elevates mood and decreases anxiety. Sunshine increases Vitamin D production which can help alleviate depression. My friend Elizabeth wrote an excellent post about Vitamin D and its link to depression here.  For more information about other sources of Vitamin D, this is a great post as well as this.
4. Ask them to help you understand what they’re feeling.
If your partner is able to articulate what they are going through, it will help them and you better understand what you are dealing with, and may give insight into a plan of action for helping your partner. Also, feeling alone is common for a depressed person and anything that combats that feeling will help alleviate the severity and length of the depression.
5. Encourage them to focus on self-care.
Depressed people often stop taking care of themselves. Showering, getting haircuts, going to the doctor or dentist, it’s all just too hard, and they don’t deserve to be well taken care of anyway in their minds. This can snowball quickly into greater feelings of worthlessness since “Now I’m such a mess, no one could ever love me”. Help your loved one by being proactive. Tell them “I’m going to do the dishes, why don’t you go enjoy a bubble bath?” can give them the permission they won’t give themselves to do something normal, healthy and self-loving.
6. Hug them.
Studies show that a sincere hug that lasts longer than 20 seconds can release feel-good chemicals in the brain and elevate the mood of the giver and receiver. Depressed people often don’t want to be touched, but a sincere hug with no expectation of anything further can give your partner a lift.
7. Laugh with them.
Telling a silly joke, watching a comedy or seeing a stand up comedian will encourage your partner to laugh in spite of themselves. Laughing releases endorphins and studies show can actually counteract symptoms of depression and anxiety.
8. Reassure them that you can handle their feelings.
Your partner may be feeling worthless, angry and even guilty while they are depressed. They may be afraid that they will end up alone because no one will put up with their episodes forever. Reassure them that you are in the relationship for the long haul and they won’t scare you away because they have an illness.
9. Challenge their destructive thoughts.
A depressed person’s mind can be a never-ending loop of painful, destructive thoughts. “I’m unlovable, I’m a failure, I’m ugly, I’m stupid”. Challenge these untruths with the truth. “You’re not unlovable, I love you. You aren’t a failure, here are all the things you’ve accomplished.”
10.Remind them why you love them.
Look at pictures of happy times you’ve had together. Tell them your favorite things about them. Reminisce about your relationship and all the positive things that have happened, and remind your partner that you love them and they will get through this.
(via The Darling Bakers)

More people need to know this.

This is so incredibly important. I’ve seen people with depression ostracized so many times, and I cannot stress how much it means to each and every person I’ve tried to reach out to after whatever “falling-outs” they’ve had due to depression. Remember to always be compassionate and kind to all friends like this, because you never know what they’re going through.

animedavidbowie:

unrecognizedpotential:

forgottenawesome:

Do You Love Someone With Depression?

If you have a partner or are close to someone who struggles with depression, you may not always know how to show them you love them. One day they may seem fine, and the next they are sad, distant and may push you away. It is important that you know that as a person who is close to them and trusted by them, you can help your friend or partner have shorter, less severe bouts of depression. Mental illness is as real as physical illness (it is physical actually, read more about that here) and your partner needs you as much as they would need to be cared for if they had the flu.

Your relationship may seem one-sided during these times, but by helping your partner through a very difficult and painful affliction, you are strengthening your relationship and their mental health in the long term.

1. Help them keep clutter at bay.

When a person begins spiraling into depression, they may feel like they are slowing down while the world around them speeds up. The mail may end up in stacks, dishes can pile up in the sink, laundry may go undone as the depressed person begins to feel more and more overwhelmed by their daily routine and unable to keep up. By giving your partner some extra help sorting mail, washing dishes or using paper plates and keeping chaos in check in general, you’ll be giving them (and yourself) the gift of a calm  environment. (I’m a fan of the minimalist movement because of this, you can read more about that here.)

2. Fix them a healthy meal.

Your partner may do one of two things when they are in a depressed state. They may eat very little, or they may overeat. In either case, they may find that driving through a fast food restaurant or ordering a pizza online is just easier than fixing a meal. Eating like this, or neglecting to eat will only degrade your partner’s health, causing them to go deeper into their depression. Help your loved one keep their body healthy, and their mind will follow. This is a great article that talks about the “Brain Diet” which can help the symptoms of depression, and this article talks about how our modern diet could contribute to the recent rise in depression. Here is a recipe for a trail mix that is quick to make and has mood-boosting properties.

3.Get them outside.

 The benefits of getting outside for a depressed person are huge. And it is possibly the last thing on earth your partner will want to do. Take them to be somewhere in nature. Pack a picnic and lie in the sun, take a leisurely hike or plant a garden. Being barefoot in the dirt, or “earthing” helps ground the body and reverse the effects of living in a world of emf’s, and digging in soil can actually act as an antidepressant, as a strain of bacterium in soil, Mycobacterium vaccae, triggers the release of seratonin, which in turn elevates mood and decreases anxiety. Sunshine increases Vitamin D production which can help alleviate depression. My friend Elizabeth wrote an excellent post about Vitamin D and its link to depression here.  For more information about other sources of Vitamin D, this is a great post as well as this.

4. Ask them to help you understand what they’re feeling.

If your partner is able to articulate what they are going through, it will help them and you better understand what you are dealing with, and may give insight into a plan of action for helping your partner. Also, feeling alone is common for a depressed person and anything that combats that feeling will help alleviate the severity and length of the depression.

5. Encourage them to focus on self-care.

Depressed people often stop taking care of themselves. Showering, getting haircuts, going to the doctor or dentist, it’s all just too hard, and they don’t deserve to be well taken care of anyway in their minds. This can snowball quickly into greater feelings of worthlessness since “Now I’m such a mess, no one could ever love me”. Help your loved one by being proactive. Tell them “I’m going to do the dishes, why don’t you go enjoy a bubble bath?” can give them the permission they won’t give themselves to do something normal, healthy and self-loving.

6. Hug them.

Studies show that a sincere hug that lasts longer than 20 seconds can release feel-good chemicals in the brain and elevate the mood of the giver and receiver. Depressed people often don’t want to be touched, but a sincere hug with no expectation of anything further can give your partner a lift.

7. Laugh with them.

Telling a silly joke, watching a comedy or seeing a stand up comedian will encourage your partner to laugh in spite of themselves. Laughing releases endorphins and studies show can actually counteract symptoms of depression and anxiety.

8. Reassure them that you can handle their feelings.

Your partner may be feeling worthless, angry and even guilty while they are depressed. They may be afraid that they will end up alone because no one will put up with their episodes forever. Reassure them that you are in the relationship for the long haul and they won’t scare you away because they have an illness.

9. Challenge their destructive thoughts.

A depressed person’s mind can be a never-ending loop of painful, destructive thoughts. “I’m unlovable, I’m a failure, I’m ugly, I’m stupid”. Challenge these untruths with the truth. “You’re not unlovable, I love you. You aren’t a failure, here are all the things you’ve accomplished.”

10.Remind them why you love them.

Look at pictures of happy times you’ve had together. Tell them your favorite things about them. Reminisce about your relationship and all the positive things that have happened, and remind your partner that you love them and they will get through this.

(via The Darling Bakers)

More people need to know this.

This is so incredibly important. I’ve seen people with depression ostracized so many times, and I cannot stress how much it means to each and every person I’ve tried to reach out to after whatever “falling-outs” they’ve had due to depression. Remember to always be compassionate and kind to all friends like this, because you never know what they’re going through.

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muffinpines:

throws paper airplanes made from x files at scully
believe
(i dont usually do requests but this was too good to pass up)

muffinpines:

throws paper airplanes made from x files at scully

believe

(i dont usually do requests but this was too good to pass up)

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Whatever.

Whatever.

mayhap:

October 9 marks the tenth anniversary of the death of the French-Algerian philosopher, Jacques Derrida, and—in order to register this anniversary, and to recognize his wide influence in the humanities and beyond—Avital Ronell (NYU) and Eduardo Cadava (Princeton University) are hosting a symposium entitled “Unpacking Derrida’s Library: Secrets of the Archive” that will take place October 9-11, 2014 at Princeton University. The symposium will explore the ways in which Derrida’s writings helped transform our understanding of a range of disciplines and areas in the humanities, including philosophy, literature, art and art history, music, architecture, anthropology, cultural studies, gender studies, law, psychoanalysis, and human rights. The symposium will bring together philosophers, literary critics and theorists from Algeria, Canada, England, France, Germany, Greece, India, Italy, Scotland, New Zealand and the United States to think about the multiple legacies that his work has left for us.

Wow. This falls on my fall reading week. Does anyone want to travel to New Jersey with me?

mayhap:

October 9 marks the tenth anniversary of the death of the French-Algerian philosopher, Jacques Derrida, and—in order to register this anniversary, and to recognize his wide influence in the humanities and beyond—Avital Ronell (NYU) and Eduardo Cadava (Princeton University) are hosting a symposium entitled “Unpacking Derrida’s Library: Secrets of the Archive” that will take place October 9-11, 2014 at Princeton University. The symposium will explore the ways in which Derrida’s writings helped transform our understanding of a range of disciplines and areas in the humanities, including philosophy, literature, art and art history, music, architecture, anthropology, cultural studies, gender studies, law, psychoanalysis, and human rights. The symposium will bring together philosophers, literary critics and theorists from Algeria, Canada, England, France, Germany, Greece, India, Italy, Scotland, New Zealand and the United States to think about the multiple legacies that his work has left for us.

Wow. This falls on my fall reading week. Does anyone want to travel to New Jersey with me?

thescholarlygeek:

James Joyce, in a letter to Ibsen

thescholarlygeek:

James Joyce, in a letter to Ibsen

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believermag:

Cartoons by Jason Novak made in collaboration with Eric Jaronsinski of @Neinquarterly.

Read an interview with Jaronsinski.

(Source: alterities)

Juliette Binoche photographed by Robert Doisneau, 1991

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"You’ve said that you also read a lot of poetry in your youth.

That was after. It was, if you like, the disappointment of philosophy that made me turn to literature. To tell the truth, it’s from that point on I realized that Dostoyevsky was much more important than a great philosopher. And that the great poetry was something extraordinary."

E.M. Cioran, interviewed here. (via batarde)

(via lyingseason)

design-is-fine:

Erich Kettelhut, Sketch for the set of Fritz Lang’s Metropolis. Night View with Tower. 1920s. Oil paint and enamel on cardboard. Berlin, Stiftung Deutsche Kinemathek. Source

design-is-fine:

Erich Kettelhut, Sketch for the set of Fritz Lang’s Metropolis. Night View with Tower. 1920s. Oil paint and enamel on cardboard. Berlin, Stiftung Deutsche Kinemathek. Source

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missingozu:

Some more stills/info…
TEMPO // BASHO explores the possibility of an alternative modernity in the films of Yasujiro Ozu. Made in partnership with the Criterion Collection. *Screening tonight at the IFC Center (Sept 22, 8pm).
:: kogonada | USA, 2014 | Japanese | 13min. | Color and Black & White

missingozu:

Some more stills/info…

TEMPO // BASHO explores the possibility of an alternative modernity in the films of Yasujiro Ozu. Made in partnership with the Criterion Collection. *Screening tonight at the IFC Center (Sept 22, 8pm).

:: kogonada | USA, 2014 | Japanese | 13min. | Color and Black & White

(via ozu-teapot)

"…tolerance in our society can be said to be genuinely repressive, in that it offers a means of defusing the most dangerous and subversive ideas: not censorship, but the transformation into a fad, is the most effective way of destroying a potentially threatening movement or revolutionary personality."

— Jameson, Frederic, Marxism and Form: Twentieth-Century Dialectical Theories of Literature (Princeton, Princeton University Press, 1971) p.110 (via fuckyeahdialectics)

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I don’t normally do these things, but Aylea was kind enough to “tag” me, so I will indulge her curiosity. Follow her if you aren’t already. 

Name: Jake.

Nickname: I don’t have one. 

Gender: Male.

Sexuality: My own. 

Height: 5 ft 10 in. 

Time Zone: The Twilight Zone. 

What time and date is it there: Twilight, obviously. 

Average hours of sleep I get each night: Enough to function. 

The last thing I googled was: Things pertaining to Orientalism and film.

My most used phrase(s): “Such is life,” probably. My partner can probably fill you in on a few more. 

What I last said to a family member: As if I could remember. 

One place that makes me happy & why: Prague, because it’s a place I will always safeguard as magical. Plus, Kafka.

How many blankets I sleep under: Usually a single sheet and quilt. 

Favorite beverage(s): Coffee; spearmint tea; bitter ales. 

The last movie I watched in the cinema: I can’t remember. Probably Boyhood

Three things I can’t live without: Food, water, oxygen. 

Something I plan on learning: German and French—someday. 

A piece of advice for all my followers: “My mistakes are my life.” - Samuel Beckett, How It Is.

Tagging: Anyone willing. 

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